Thoughts about self-love.  Valentine’s Day arrives tomorrow.  I know this day recognizes devoted love to a real or pursued sweetheart, but on Valentine’s Day, and the next day, and all days, as you place down in front of you your life’s course, please remember to take your path up to new levels of victorious fulfillment by prioritizing someone else first, you!  For a healthy and happy life, make it a habit to practice self-love.

It is apparent that many of us both have a hard time loving ourselves, and making the time to love ourselves.  I often hear a derivative of the following from people as they procrastinate loving themselves, “I’ll take care of myself when, ‘fill in the blank’ ”, such as “when my kids are mature”, or “when work slows down”, or “when I retire 10-years from now”, and so on.  The result of neglecting loving ourselves in present time?  We start to dislike (dis-love) one or some or many of the facets of ourselves that we neglect.  News flash: Although you can walk away from most anything you dislike, including someone or some obligation or some dysfunction, you cannot get rid of you.  You eat with yourself, you go to work with yourself, you go to bed with yourself, you go out with yourself, you go on vacation with yourself, you go everywhere you go.  Know that when you are in the company of one, some, or many, you are still with you.  It is hard to enjoy life fully when you dislike certain sides of you.  It is practically impossible to carry yourself up to new levels of fulfillment when you dislike certain aspects of you.  Contrarily, your level of contentment tends to start dropping.  The worst result of neglecting loving ourselves?  Quitting life’s perpetual fight with us for our attitude and letting misery stay.  It is upsetting for me when I hear someone say, “Why take care of myself?  Someday, I am just going to die anyway.”

Do yourself a favor.  Stop beating yourself up.  Stop believing things such as “I’ll be happy when I lose 10-pounds,” or “I’ll be happy when I have the career that I want,” or “I’ll be happy when I have the relationship that I want,” or “I’ll be happy when I get married,” or “I’ll be happy when I stop this habit, such as smoking,” etcetera.  Each day is already hard enough for each of us as caused by routine busyness that triggers irritability.  Instead, like yourself for where you are at the moment, and shine bright like a diamond.  Envision the whole you.  See yourself as healthy, beautiful, and as having reached your goals.  Polish your facets, the ones you already have.  With faith, love who you are right now.  It is important to take time out of your day, every day, to turn off and tune out, and nurture yourself.  Moms, that daily attention to yourself goes a long way.  Put yourself first, so that you can be a better version of you for your family.  Your kids need to know that you love you.  You are setting a good example by showing them this.  It is not selfish, it is selfless.  Each morning, take and have a quiet moment for deep breathing and meditation.  Reach peace by cycling through 3-sets of 5 deep breaths in and 5 deep breaths out.  At night, stop enabling the dads.  Rather, give them the opportunity to spend time with your kids, for an hour, or even 15 minutes.  When your family sees you taking care of you, they will learn those behaviors and respect you more.  Use that time, sometimes, to rejuvenate yourself, and sometimes, to think about what is not serving you and/or what is draining of you of your energy, for which you will make course corrections.   It is also important to pamper yourself.  Do your nails.  Nourish your skin.  I do homemade facials with ingredients like avocado, cacao, honey and papaya.  I let it dry up naturally and then wash it off.  My face, afterwards, feels so much smoother!  Another thing you can do for inner peace is to simply purge the things that are not wanted in your home, so that the continued site of these things does not bring strife into your life.

I found a great an article about 10 wonderful ways to practice self-love.  This article was helpful for me, and I hope it will be helpful for you.  Here is the URL:

With All Respect and Abundant Love,


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