Your Ultimate Survival Kit for Singles Mixer Events

Tired of swiping endlessly on dating apps? It’s time to step out of the virtual world and into the thrilling realm of singles dating events! Singles mixer events can be exciting opportunities to meet new people and potentially find a romantic connection. However, these events can also be intimidating! So we’ve got your back with this fun-filled guide that will help you make meaningful connections, kickstart conversations like a pro, conquer anxiety, and skyrocket your confidence. Get ready to unleash your inner flirt and dominate the singles scene in the real world!

Before the Event

Treat Yourself, Honey:

Self-care isn’t just a buzzword; it’s a dating superpower! Pamper yourself before the event with activities that boost your confidence and make you feel like a million bucks. Hit the gym, indulge in a spa day, or dance to your favorite tunes. When you feel fantastic, you exude irresistible vibes. Try this visualization technique before you head to the event to positively prep your mindset!

Visualization

Close your eyes and take a deep breath. Imagine yourself standing at the entrance of the event, feeling a surge of excitement and confidence. Visualize the positive energy radiating from within you, illuminating your presence for all to see.

As you step inside, picture yourself wearing an outfit that makes you feel incredible, reflecting your personal style and enhancing your confidence. See yourself moving through the crowd with ease, your head held high and a warm smile on your face.

Visualize engaging conversations with interesting people. Picture yourself initiating conversations effortlessly, expressing your genuine interests, and listening attentively to others. Feel the genuine connections you make, the laughter shared, and the sparks of chemistry that ignite.

Imagine yourself embracing your authentic self fully. See yourself being unapologetically you, expressing your quirks and unique qualities. Feel the freedom and liberation that comes with embracing your true personality, knowing that the right people will appreciate and be drawn to your authenticity.

Visualize moments of laughter, joy, and shared experiences. Picture yourself enjoying the company of others, engaging in fun activities, and creating memories that will last beyond this event.

Feel the confidence within you grow with each positive interaction. Sense the excitement building as you realize the potential for meaningful connections and the possibility of finding someone special.

Now, take a deep breath and open your eyes, carrying the sense of confidence, excitement, and authenticity with you. Trust that you have everything you need to make the most of the upcoming mixer. Embrace the opportunities, stay true to yourself, and allow your vibrant energy to attract the perfect match for you.

Crush Those Butterflies:

Anxiety hinders your ability to spread your wings and shine like the star you are! If you feel anxious in social situations, try practicing deep breathing exercises or grounding techniques beforehand. Remind yourself that everyone is there with the same goal of meeting new people and are likely feeling similarly! Take some time before the event to identify any doubts you may be having, challenge these negative thoughts and replace them with positive affirmations to boost your confidence.

Check out the list below; which thoughts do you notice come up for you when anxiety and uncertainty are getting the best of you? Choose 1-2 affirmations (or create your own) that resonate with you and say it aloud to yourself in the mirror. Write them down and post them somewhere where you can easily see them. Create a post on social media or reach out to your supports to gain positive feedback and affirmations that you can carry with you.

Affirmations

Negative Thought: “I’m not attractive enough.”
Affirmation: “I am confident in my own unique beauty and charm.”
Negative Thought: “No one will be interested in me.”
Affirmation: “I have so much to offer, and my genuine personality will attract the right people.”
Negative Thought: “I’m awkward and don’t know how to start a conversation.”
Affirmation: “I can be friendly, approachable, and share interesting things. I can initiate conversations and be myself.”
Negative Thought: “I’ll be rejected if I approach someone.”
Affirmation: “Rejection is a natural part of dating. I am resilient and I can tolerate rejection. My efforts will lead me to the right person.”
Negative Thought: “I’ve had bad experiences in the past, so it won’t work out this time either.”
Affirmation: “I am open to new possibilities and have learned valuable lessons from past experiences. This time could be different.”
Negative Thought: “I’m just not good at dating.”
Affirmation: “Dating is a skill that improves with practice. I am constantly growing and learning, becoming better with each experience.”
Negative Thought: “There’s no one here who is a good match for me.”
Affirmation: “I approach each interaction with an open mind. I never know who I might connect with unexpectedly.”
Negative Thought: “What if I say or do something embarrassing?”
Affirmation: “I embrace my imperfections and know that authenticity is more important than perfection. People appreciate genuine connections.”

Set the Stage for Love:

Before you strut into that event, channel your inner cupid and set some goals. Are you in the mood for a sizzling summer fling or a long-term romance? Clarifying your intentions will give you the ability to dive into conversations with direction, confidence and purpose that will make you stand out from the crowd!

Ask Yourself:

• What would I enjoy more; the the freedom and spontaneity that summer fling allows, or the companionship  to rock with the same partner all summer long, into the cold of winter?
• Is a summer fling enough to fulfill my needs, or do I yearn for a deeper emotional bond that extends beyond the season?
• Am I seeking personal growth and self-discovery through short-term connections, or am I ready to invest in a partnership that allows for mutual growth and support over time?

During the Event

Be a Social Butterfly:

Spread your wings as you flutter around the room, radiating approachability and charm. Flash your megawatt smile, uncross those arms, and be open to meeting new people. Show genuine interest in others and let your personality shine. Exude confidence by walking into the event with your head held high; you are the ultimate catch!

Confidence is attractive, and it instantly draws people towards you regardless of those pesky flaws you find yourself worrying about. Have an annoying zit in the middle of your face the day of the event? Wear it with pride and notice how no one notices it when you’re radiating with confidence. Believe in yourself and let your self-assured demeanor make a statement.

Approachability is key! Make sure your body language sends the right signals. Keep your arms relaxed, stand tall, and maintain an open posture. Smile genuinely and make eye contact with others. As challenging as it may feel, give your phone a much needed break. It is a habit to pull our devices out when we’re unsure of what to do with our hands or feel awkward. This leads you to have your head down, distracted and closed off from those that might be noticing you.

By being approachable, you’ll make it easier for potential connections to strike up conversations with you, and even come to you. Try making eye contact with people from across the room and notice how this can draw them towards you.

Authenticity Wins Hearts:

Say goodbye to pretending to be someone you’re not. Authenticity is your secret weapon to winning hearts at singles events. Embrace your quirks, celebrate your passions, and let your true self shine. The right person will be captivated by your genuine awesomeness.

You can do this by embracing your passions. Share your genuine interests and hobbies with others. Whether it’s music, art, sports, or any other pursuit, being passionate about something shows your enthusiasm and allows others to connect with your authentic self.

Be honest about your values. Openly communicate your core values and what is important to you in your life. This helps attract individuals who align with your beliefs and creates a strong foundation for a meaningful connection that will leave you feeling truly content.

Share your aspirations and goals. Express your dreams and aspirations for the future. By sharing your ambitions, you invite like-minded individuals who can support and encourage you on your journey.

Be true to your quirks and embrace your uniqueness. Let your true personality shine! Don’t be afraid to be silly, goofy, or unconventional. The right match will appreciate your authenticity and find joy in your individuality. This is the part of you that allows you to stand out amongst the rest.

Trust your instincts and listen to your gut feelings when it comes to potential matches. Trust your intuition to guide you towards individuals who resonate with your authentic self. Don’t settle for anything less than what feels right to you. Have faith in yourself and follow your heart.

Conversation Kickstarters:

Let’s face it, starting conversations can be nerve-wracking. But fear not! Armed with our conversation kickstarters, you’ll be a smooth talker in no time. Compliment someone’s style, ask about their favorite travel adventures, or share a hilarious dating mishap. The key is to keep it light, playful, and captivating!

Sharing a funny dating story can lighten the mood! By sharing a humorous or memorable dating experience, it allows both of you to have a laugh and potentially bond over shared relatable moments.

Play a game! Suggest playing a fun icebreaker game like “Two Truths and a Lie” or “Would You Rather?” This interactive approach sparks engagement, laughter, and helps you get to know each other in a playful way and takes the pressure off.

Ask for recommendations and seek their suggestions for a great restaurant, book, movie, or travel destination. It shows that you value their input and can lead to discussions about shared experiences or future plans.

Try sharing a fascinating fact and surprise them with something they may not know (and show off your brains). It can spark curiosity and lead to a conversation exploring various topics.

Discuss upcoming events or activities: Inquire about any upcoming concerts, festivals, or local events they’re excited about. It provides an opportunity to discuss shared interests and potentially plan future outings together.

Use open-ended questions to ask thought-provoking questions that require more than a simple yes or no answer, such as “What’s the most adventurous thing you’ve ever done?” This encourages deeper conversations and reveals more about each other’s personalities and inspires more natural connection.

Conclusion:

It’s time to ditch the endless swiping and take charge of your love life by getting out into the real world, making real connections. Armed with our fun-filled guide, you’re ready to flirt, connect, and make memories that will leave you grinning from ear to ear. So unleash your inner flirt, embrace the adventure, and get ready to write your own love story at the next singles mixer. It’s time to enter the dating scene like never before!